About me

The great paradox of the writer’s life is how much time he spends alone trying to connect with other people. ~ Betsy Lerner

I’m a 28-year-old single female living in London, UK.

I currently work as an Administrator in a counselling centre, but I’d prefer to work in a more creative field.

I like photography, listening to music (mostly RnB and pop), and writing. I’d like to become a novelist one day.

I like watching action movies and thrillers, but I hate gory horror films. My favourite film is Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon.

My favourite novel is Chocolat by Joanne Harris. I also love chocolate, cakes and crunchy biscuits.

So far I’ve travelled to Belgium, Egypt, France, Germany, Luxembourg, Holland, Jamaica (x4), Japan, Madeira, North America, and Spain.

I think that monkeys are cute. :lol:

Leave me a message in the comments if you want to know anything else.

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32 Responses to “About me”

  1. 1
    simon:

    Just wondering what your looking for

  2. 2
    PJ:

    Hi Simon, I’m not sure what you mean. Please say more.

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    noni:

    nice blog…..good to read and viewd
    (hmm…myself belongs to race of recluse human…or born to this race)

    tagged you to my blog..

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    SLAV(E)TERNAL:

    YOUR A VERY…INTERESTING PERSON. I WISH ALL THE LUCK FOR THE FUTURE. MAYBE WE’LL SEE ONE OF YOUR BOOKS ON TOP OF A BEST SELLERS LIST SOMEDAY.

    YOUR FREINDLY NEIGHBOURHOOD BROWN BEAR!

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    tim maguire:

    I will allow your claim that your favorite book is Chocolat, so long as you admit to hating the movie Chocolat. I’m sorry, but that requirement is non-negotiable. And while we’re on the subject, your favorite movie isn’t Crouching Dragon, Hidden Tiger, it’s Amadeus.

    Monkeys are cute, though, I’ll give you that (assuming by “cute” you mean “cool”).

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    PJ:

    You’re right, I didn’t like Choc the movie. Just changing the antagonist from a priest to a mayor was too much watering down for me. And the rest.

    I’ve never even seen Amadeus. so it probably is my fave film.

    Monkeys are cute AND cool, so there! :razz:

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    J:

    Don’t know what to say, I just typed “Recluse” into google and found this site. Not exactly sure what I was hoping to find but I’m quite surprised at the results.

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    PJ:

    Hey J, I don’t know whether that’s a compliment. :???:

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    Paul Bye:

    Hi PJ love the site, genius. im a rural recluse, writting an epic on and off since 2001, more off than on mind. im an artist, engineer, teacher and well a dreamer really, live in the hands a rather annoying fate, which has today, led me somewhat randomly and happily to your site. Its refresshingly fantastic, well done. contact me please. And Yep choc great, monkeys very cute, working in a job you hate, soul destroying.

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    Nevan Bacon:

    Be careful with monkeys. they will tear your face off on a whim. Just keep that in mind.

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    PJ:

    Nevan: are you writing from experience? I’ve no plans to actually get near enough to a monkey for that to happen.

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    Matt:

    stumbled across your site, I’m really good at wasting time, enjoyed it good luck

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    Angela:

    You sound like a cool babe! Hello from across the pond. :wink:

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    ceall:

    How I found your site do NOT know, when this happens I might as well assign it to yet another result of stumbleupon.com. I sense a familiar/kindred spirit in the ‘recluse wanting to write stuck in a counselling position of sorts…’ It isn’t necessarily soul destroying as another commented, but, it surely can squelch.

    And Amadeus over Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon. Yes. (although, it’s very much an apples and oranges toss up.)

    keep writing!

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    Richie Rich:

    Hi PJ,

    On a scale of 1 to 10, how reclusive are you?

    scale key:
    1 = home body
    10 = vampire

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    PJ:

    Hi Matt: hope that the site is a good timewaster at least.

    Angela: thanks and hello to you too.

    Ceall: I don’t think I’ve ever seen Amadeus, though I probably should.

    Richie Rich: hi, I think I’m probably about an 8.5. How about you?

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    ghostlyvision:

    Hi PJ

    Keep up the good work. The world needs more people to write words and more people to read them.

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    Dani:

    I just found your site today and love it!!! Thanks for writing….not sure what that really means, but felt compelled to write it anyhow. ;() Cheers! D

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    Rofaida:

    ;-) wow Mashaa Allah you on this age and you travel to all this country .i like the way you think and i would like to know more about you ..i’m late to get your web site as i can see most of the comment from 2008 .i hope i’m not late to know you..by the way i’m from egypt

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    Mia:

    Monkeys are cool and so is writing. I live in Canada and it’s soooooo cold right now!

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    Brian Fudge-Nuggets:

    You’re not exactly a recluse are you. You have a job and you travel. You know what chocolate is so you MUST have been outside at least once. (I only go out to sign on or buy crisps)

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    Craig:

    I just now sent a response on ‘contact me’ so in case you don’t see that, your ‘number five’ on your thirteen word list is called an ‘after-thought’ – American Heritage Dictionary. Sorry. :rolhttp://recluse.me/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_rolleyes.gifl:
    I live in Enfield Conn. U. S. (4:27 on Aug. 21st)

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    Brian Monkey-Fusge:

    Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon is one of the best films ever made. What do you think of Glengarry Glen Ross?

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    eazyrider:

    im the newest recluse in training i guess..it feels good to no im not alone..were never alone..there IS.someone out there that cares for all of us,,,glad to meet yall…EZ

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    Alan Sweet:

    Hey, Im doing a paper on the Hero’s Journey and archetypes on I am legend and i need to find a reliable source about the movie. Your Facts are good but my question is that do you have any degree in language arts, literature or any other field. Thx Alan

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    PJ:

    Hi, just saw your message. I’m currently working towards a BA in English but hadn’t started studying it when I wrote that piece. I was working from the Writer’s Journey book by Christopher Vogler, which was inspired by Joseph Campbell’s book on the heroes journey. Hope that helps, and good luck with your assignment.

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    Jessica:

    Hello! I’m sorry to be messaging you like this but I saw that you used to have the tumblr, http://via.tumblr.com/ :oops: It says that you haven’t been on since 2009 and I was wondering if you would let the url go for me? I understand if you wouldn’t want to, but it would mean a lot if you did. Regardless of your choice I hope you message me back. Have a nice day! :grin: :grin: :razz:

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    Big Guy:

    Found your site BING’ing “Urban recluse.” I’m reasearching that for my 2014 New Year’s resolution. The 2013 resolution was to be more effervescent. So far, that’s working but it is a lot of effort. Looking to change my life style/approach to something low key with an up tick in quality. Hopefully, your site will provide some insight. In the mean time, take care.

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    coetzeegisela:

    An intersting reply on an interesting ‘portal’.

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    littledancedreamer:

    Hi there,

    Loved your blog! I’ve been really struggling recently due to people’s opinions of the reclusive style of my life. However, they cannot seem to understand that I’m happy living a peaceful and quiet life without drama. I love & live to dance & practice all the time, obsessed with trilogies – books and films – and have a very small ring of trustworthy friends who are always there and vice versa. We do not need to be in each others pockets 24 hours a day/365 days a year. We respect the distances and love the times we spend together and make the most when we do.

    I’m really not comfortable in a socialite environment and due to some new people coming into my life who don’t understand my “freakish” behaviour, I now feel like an outcast in society. What would you do? I’m looking for advice from any fellow recluses who have ever hit low points.

    Many thanks xxxx

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    Celeste P:

    I absolutely love your site. I am the “recluse’s recluse”, and this was just confirmation. If I didn’t HAVE to go out to work, I’d probably never leave the house. It is good to know that I am in great company.

    I went off to undergrad nearly 40 years ago with a stuffed white monkey. I loved that monkey, but had to give it up when I married 2 years later…I should have kept my monkey! I wish you great success.

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    Rob from New Zealand:

    Just discovered this helpful & insightful site today – Reply to littledance dreamer from 1yr + ago.

    You say you feel you are an outcast in society for embracing reclusivity. You ask what can you do & advice from fellow recluses.

    My advice to myself & you is, in an idealist & brash nutshell – get the f*** over it and toughen the f*** up. So to put that aside for a bit, here is the analysis: reclusivity, is a minority lifestyle in society. And like any activity or attitude that goes against the grain of mainstream societal & peer group thinking, will be attacked & labelled (by the simple minded) as you say “freakish”. It comes with the territory.

    Wear their simple minded taunts as a badge of honour. You better… or they will get under your skin, & worse you may start to believe their simple minded assesments are true & you are a freak.

    There is no need for me to put forward the rational & healthy advantages & arguements for a reclusive or partially reclusive lifestyle choice. Any intelligent reflective person, as I asume you are, can deduce this. What you need to develop, is certainty that reclusivity, is a valid lifestyle choice (apart from depression or mental illness related) & obviously one size does not fit all in society – contrary to the taunters, who in effect are saying – ” you should be like me – one size SHOULD fit all in society”. How to actually do this does require a certain f*** you attitude… “who the hell are you to tell me I’m a freak”

    This is the 21st century, where educated & enlightened people have moved on from, racism, sexism, ageism, homophobia etc … & recluse-ophobia – be one of these people, & treat what the simple minded say & imply, as water off a ducks back – with the inner strength of mind that come from understanding, & percieving things accurately for what they are.

    Cheers – Rob

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