8 Responses to “Reclusivity”

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   Wendy:
   
   2:21 pm on 4-Sep-12

   Yeah, I am. To a degree that most everyone else considers unhealthy. I used to live in a less populated area, so I could go out and spend time in nature or at least not have to deal with lots of people. Now I live in the middle of a city, and I leave my apartment maybe once a week, at most, if I absolutely have to.
   It’s amazing, because growing up I was extremely outgoing- prom queen, president of the student council, all that. Now I’m in my 30s and I just feel completely burnt out on people. If it weren’t for my boyfriend, who I live with, I would talk to other people maybe once or twice a month.

   I’m curious to read your blog and will head over there now.

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   Elias:
   
   12:12 am on 13-Aug-13

   I to am a solitary reclusive person, who has no one by choice to confide in . I to leave my house yard, once a week. I average 700 miles on my cars odometer annually. I take it out to keep the engine lubricated and so the tires don’t “rot” with it sitting in the garage. All my life I’ve been a solitary person, who enjoys his own company with his closest companion, being my Imagination. I’m never bored, and cannot find enough hours in the day to accomplish all that I want to. I’m not complaining about that, just stating a fact. I’m the “only” person in the country who doesn’t have a smart phone. I DON’T belong to Facebook or twitter. To scary how your personal stuff can be out there, waiting for you to be scammed. I just found there is a label for someone like me (71 years of age) who has no interest in sex per se, and that is asexual. And I’m not the only one who is, according to the website/blog AVEN. I’m content with my situation, and I may be ALONE, but I’m never lonely. Go figure.

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   Pattis:
   
   3:12 pm on 25-Nov-13

   I think I must be Elias’s clone. Same age, same issues. I am so happy to see that I am not the only person in the world at my age who loves solitude. People who have known me for a lifetime think I am suffering from dementia. I worked in the corporate world for thirty six years and when I retired, I made the decision to be alone. Five years ago when I retired, I did go out on a few lunch dates with men my age but when the subject turned sexual (and it always did) I was completely turned off on the individual and chose to never see them again. I can go for weeks without talking to or seeing anyone and it doesn’t bother me. My source of entertainment and connection with the outside world is a TV and computer. I use my dumb phone for necessary calls, and that is all. I am like Elias, alone, but never lonely.

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   Stephen:
   
   9:52 pm on 25-May-14

   I’m a 48 year old asexual recluse. I go to work, go shopping once a week when I visit a cafe and sit there alone reading a newspaper, but am happiest alone in my flat reading, listening to the radio or watching TV. I don’t mind talking to people when I have to, but I have been let down by so many people throughout my life I find it hard to trust anyone. Teased at school for being quiet and shy and taken advantage of ever since, the older I get the more I realise it’s safer to be alone.

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   Jacqueline:
   
   5:47 pm on 18-Jun-15

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   Disco:
   
   8:27 pm on 24-Aug-15

   41 here. Male, married…if not for my job (which is painful to go to each day) I don’t think I would ever go outside. My wife is amazing but I avoid her. I have no interest in romance or sex. No interest in conversation. I never answer my cell phone and find it rings less and less as the years go by. No friends really snd thats how I want it. The only time I feel lonely is when Im forced into social situations. Just wish I could make a living without ever leaving my house.

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   Nancy:
   
   5:02 am on 26-Sep-15

   I am 53, married, and have been contemplating a recluse lifestyle for a long time. Winter is here, and I am going to give it a try. Your comments are supportive and I hope we can help each other. Will stay in touch.

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   Vince:
   
   12:54 am on 7-Oct-15

   I’ve been a recluse for years. Actually all of my so called life. 56 years now. I just feel disconnected and far away from everything. I hate this place, this prison, this zoo,this reality. Winter is my favorite time of year. Can’t beat a frigid winter night at one am. Of course that’s morning really. I can’t tell the difference anymore. Reply if you want. If not, same thing.

   ” I talk to God but the sky is empty”. Sylvia Plath.

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