I’ve been a recluse so long, I’ve really sort of forgotten about it. I only remember under stress, when my family bugs me about meeting up for a family do or something. Bleah. I guess I must like it… it started when I was about ten, and I’m 43 now. Long live the recluses… we never pick up the flu from work. =)
Recluse-in-Training…so thats what my result says. Well when I saw just the result, I was like …what the **** but when I read the description, I realized that nothing else could describe me better. Nice stuffs. Enjoyed your 99 things…I am presently facing a writer’s block and my job in a Call Center doesn’t help the matters either.
I’m a recluse, I’ve been one for about 2 years now, I 20 years old, I play video games and watch anime, I’m a total otaku as well. The only time I leave to so go to the gas station to get some gamming fuel, I stay up late and wake up at about 4 or 5pm and do it all over again. I buy almost everything online… I one time even bought a gallon of milk online, come to think of it, a orginisation called my house the other day wondering if I was interested in a program that will actually by all my gosseries and deliver them to me. I not sure how they got my number or how they new I was such a recluse, kinda freaky. Anyway, I like it, no one here to piss me off or to get in my way, im not crazy (who said I was crazy), I’ll be an recluse an otaku forever!
Ello, I am pretty much a recluse so my horrible girlfriend keeps telling me. She thinks it is pretty insane to be up at 3am or 6am and then sleep til late morning or just when the fuck I want!
I am pretty much a Misanthrope as well…anyone else??! I didn’t realise there was anyone like me. I have been made to feel ashamed of my lifestyle. I sometimes don’t go outside for days and I now have a bit of a phobia about using the telephone. I go for days without talking to anyone or even setting one foot outside my door. Sometimes, today for instance I have had to resort to powdered milk as I have a phobia about going out, most people think I am weird where I live and so they leave me alone for the most part!
Recluse in training l ……….i actually came across when i was trying to find out whether i can socialize at all after totally lettin my bro down at a party where i was a total antisocial……..Sigh sigh truth is so bitter for me ………Very nice blog tho
I’m not doing a whole lot these days, I’ve since retired from Printing and Graphic, wife is still working at her business however. I do some photography from time to time as a hobby and enjoy spending time with my wife at home now that the kids have moved out and on their own.
I am The RECLUSE’S RECLUSE…I love my life style
my perfect existense would be.. Never have to work..an endless supply of Opiates..
Buying everything online & have it deliverd….NEVER have the Sun shine , I HATE SUNSHINE btw
GRAY & THUNDER STORMS..LONGER WINTERS WITH A LOT OF BLIZZERDS & HIGH WIND…
NO DAYLIGHT SAVEINGS TIME ….I LOVE THE NIGHT
I enjoy being a recluse because I spent my entire life resolving other’s problems, spending thousands to enrich their lives and really do not enjoy, want or need their company because I have given all I can give. I just want everyone to be happy, successful and leave me alone. I just feel stressed when they want to visit or include me in their activities. I have been let down by so many people, churches, organizations, friends that, although I don’t feel it was deliberate on anyone’s part, I trust no one and just enjoy the peace and tranquility when I have no expectations and am alone.
My result is ‘All Hail the Recluse’s Recluse”. Just for the record, I am an not an agoraphobic with a fear of the of open places or others. I simply have no interest in life beyond my front door. Some, like myself, just tend to thrive best hermit-style.
Done the quiz and I am a recluse in traning it says. In real life though, I am a recluse. I have two friends whom I text and email once a month. I have now moved country which means I won’t see them until who knows. I contact my family by text on my mobile phone once a month and I have no intention of making friends. I am however, an animal lover. I greet shopkeepers and wave to neighbours. I am comfortable with that but as soon as I feel that someone wants to be a friend, I vanish. I cannot stand people’s presence around me. I am very protective over my territory (my home) and just don’t like people coming to the house, unless they have to do the plumbing or the house is on fire.
Im a recluse in my mind at least I work 6 days a week and get on with my work colleuges etc I get invited to places with them and occasionally go. I have only one close friend and we meet probably every couple of weeks I’ve had many friends in my life but have not maintained contact with them a few I wish that I had kept in contact with. If I had the money I think I would probably move to the country have a few dogs and really only keep in touch with my parents lol. I have had a few girlfriends and would like a life partner but Its hard to meet people when you live the kind of life I do. I guess I come across normal but I’d just like a quiet life with a beautiful girl to travel with.
I’m a female recluse in training! Most definitely I love it! I can only stand people around me for a short time. I eventually feel like I want to either have a nervous breakdown or whack them over the head with a two by four to make them get lost. I just get too stressed. I’m single with kids and yes I have to deal with the school and I walk them there and back everyday. But I rarely talk to anyone unless I have to and believe it or not I have an excellent reputation at the school. Probably because I keep my big mouth shut about issues. I love it when my kids go with their dad on the weekends. I need the time to refuel for the following week. Ahhhh it’s like heaven! I rarely go out unless I have to like grocery shop or whatever and even that takes me a couple of hours to pysch myself up to do cuz I just love being at home period. I can’t even stand family visits at my home ugh that is the most stressful of all. Ya’ all just leave me alone! LOL
I am def a recluse in training…I work, but I don’t socialize with anyone or take up any invites. I cannot wait to get home at the end of the day, shut the door, turn off the phone and just relish my own existence. I shop in express stores because I hate large crowds, never make eye contact and the only way I can get through dealing with people is to imagine I am invisible. I just wanna write, drink coffee, sit in my secluded garden, watch TV or read…perfect. Never want to be in a relationship again as it fuels my anxiety. I like my life. I am happy.
I think it can be a balanced life.It runs in my family;friendly enough,not shy,can get along with most anyone.It’s just a matter of preferring not to.Also,being indifferent toward interaction(as most people just leave you cold).Having a better time alone in bed with a book,as opposed to craving attention and opartying,can be wonderfully liberating.
i got recluses’s recluse. but hey, i still come to work everyday. i just basically think people suck and going out is an inconvenience but hey i do live in vegas town of whores and douchebags so….yeah. I love dogs. lol
Well, anyway, I got the Recluse’s recluse. I expected as much, as I think i’ve gone a full year or two without seeing any family members besides my parents who I live with. Same goes for my friends.
My dream life is renting an apartment, in some region that I don’t know anyone in, and just live life with no connections to anyone. I know it sounds weird, but whenever I think about living that life, I get so incredibly happy that only people who feel the same way I do could understand it. People are tiring to be around, and to cope with.
the old adage “no man is an island” is absolutely WRONG! i am an island and love every waking moment of soltiude and being a total recluse. I NEED NO ONE FOR ANYTHING–EVER!!!!!!!!!! i am an extremely happy person and love MY life the way it is. JUST ME!! i don’t even have a pet. people around me at work enjoy my company, but after work–it’s all about ME. i am a giver, never a taker. i am about charity and helping those in need. but when it’s my time–it’s MY TIME. i go to work–go home–happy happy, joy joy!!
Rob – I couldn’t agree with you more. I mean I have pets but I can testify to being totally happy, well-liked and a recluse. I recently took on a roommate. BIG MISTAKE. He’s great, don’t get me wrong – but I can’t tell you how invaded I feel. In four months – that shit is over, lol. Love being alone. Perfectly functional recluse here.
Recluse’s recluse. 33 and never had a girlfriend or even a date and just like staying at home with my own thoughts and reading and watching foreign language/world films. Used to be hurt about rejection by girls and no women ever showing interest in me but I have peace of mind now.
I am a recluse in training
My sister in law and my siblings drive me nuts! They like communicating everyday
I am happy to chat to them once a month or once every two weeks, preferably via text if I can get away with it.
I love them of course but once a month suits me just fine. I get so stressed when my husband wants us to visit his parents. I swear my mood changes dramatically!
I am happiest alone in the house. I sometimes think of letting my live in housekeeper go. She gets in my way. I sometimes lock myself in the room so I can be completely alone and I don’t have to deal with her.
Fuck the world and everyone in it. When I get my new place I am cutting everyone out of my life exept my son and only going out when I need to pay bills get stuff my son or I need. People fucking suck and are fake as hell. Im tired of opening up to people that dont give a shit and then wonder why you close them out
my result was recluse in training, which is kind of right. i think i’m by myself alot because i don’t have much family, alot of people are full of shit (just being honest) and my level of income. i enjoy being with my kids, watching videos online and hanging wit my lady friends.
I am a RECLUSE’S RECLUSE! I can dig EDDIE SHAPANSKI’s comments:
Eddie Shapanski…my perfect existense would be.. Never have to work..an endless supply of Opiates..Buying everything online & have it deliverd….NEVER have the Sun shine , I HATE SUNSHINE btw GRAY & THUNDER STORMS..LONGER WINTERS WITH A LOT OF BLIZZERDS & HIGH WIND…NO DAYLIGHT SAVEINGS TIME ….I LOVE THE NIGHT
Eddie, you and I would make great friends, except I like being alone. I don’t have to work. I do buy everything online, except groceries, and have it delivered. Sometimes UPS comes by 3 times in a week. I get depressed when we have days of endless sunshine. I thrive with months of gray drizzle, and about 39 degrees is perfect for me. It keeps the kids and dogs inside, and I don’t have to shovel my driveway (not that I’m going anywhere). I hate anything that delays the appearance of nighttime. 4AM is the best time of day if you have to go to Walmart or something to get a fuse. I am married, love my wife, we get along great, but I don’t love people. A Team-Building day at work would make me want to contemplate suicide.
Recluse in training apparently. I get real aggravated/cranky being around a lot of people for an extended period of time. I cuss people out (to myself) all the time because they are just in the way or crowding me. Seems someone is always around even in the most inconspicuous places sometimes. If I go down an empty aisle in the supermarket and want to take my time looking at something, it seems everyone wants to be in the exact same spot after I am there…annoying! I mainly think my attitude towards people has gotten worse over the years mainly because of what I read in the news and how it seems this world gets more f’ed up as time goes on. Don’t get me wrong, I will greet people or speak to people if they approach me or actually ask me a question (I am actually pretty nice), but I don’t go out of my way anymore to socialize. I had a group of friends in high school (made friends pretty easy), but once I left HS, it became harder and harder to make friends. Luckily I met my husband (online dating site) and we are very much alike…at least I can be reclusive with him. I haven’t worked for over 5 years and I am working on my degree. I am very much an animal lover (I have 6 pets) and will take a crowd of animals over people any day.
the reclusive life style sounds quite pleasant to me. people overwhelm me. not because I dislike them or anything, it’s just I feel mentally, emotionally and physically drained by them. I guess I’m extremely introverted and it’s hard to describe this to my friends without them making them think I no longer like them, ya know?
I took the test, mostly out of fun. I knew my results already.
recluses recluse! I was a reclusive agoraphobic from age 15 to 25.
at the same time I had anorexia from 14 to 16. then got social anxiety disorder along with the agoraphobia. when I was 24 my dad died and mid 20′s on I attempted and (failed) at some kinda social life, met people had friends (never parties or events!!!) just walked with and would do things around town with. had a couple of doomed relationships that caused me to wanna be a recluse again.
endless family deaths and tragedies happened, my mom had a stroke in 97 and never regained her ability to speak along with the rest of my family crashing down. my own social anxiety is constant but I manage (sometimes) in my mid to late 30′s I took some great trips just about everywhere, back east, the coast of California, the Grand Canyon.so many fun places and even had a bit of social life. but other tragic events took place and by age 39 I was ready to become a recluse again. now in my late 40′s I only go out when I have to for food, errands (small town) and the doctor every other month. I attend no town events at Xmas, 4th of July or any other we have. I live alone and rarely answer my door. never hang with friends or visit anyone, I have let all my friendships slide and they me. when its cool I go for solitary walks several ties a week and stay in when its hot. I’m not especially depressed, I just am tired of the back stabbing people I have known and have trust issues. I can handle my life, pay bills (and my moms) clean my place and take care of what needs be, but I prefer to be alone and watch old movies, listen to music, cook and take care of my apt and cat.
people do see me out, but sometimes not for months. I can talk to anyone when i’m out. but feel awkward sometimes and can’t wait to get home. I am a mix of agoraphobia and just plain don’t wanna be around people for long. had I had an easier time growing up without so many failures and personal problems I might be different, who’s to say? but like Garbo, I just vant to be left alone.I feel I deserve my well-earned privacy and quiet life.
I like people I just don’t like to be around them most of the time. That’s including women too. I don’t want a woman in my life and I will be fine. Never accomplished much in my life but consequences jail, prison, drugs, etc. I wouldn’t be angry if I never saw another human being for the next 25 or 30 years. My only problem would be money right now. I would buy solitary freedom from all people.
I love the solitary life ever since I was 14 I tried to fit in with people but I was a fool. I seem to correspond with me better when I am alone. I’d rather deal with people at trade school, work, or maybe the doctor, but not with my personal time. People are misguided, selfish, egotistical, mean, low-down, non-caring, despicable, individuals. Sometimes I wish I never knew the people I already knew. Maybe the good Lord will understand me.
“I can talk to anyone when i’m out. but feel awkward sometimes and can’t wait to get home. I am a mix of agoraphobia and just plain don’t wanna be around people for long. had I had an easier time growing up without so many failures and personal problems I might be different, who’s to say? but like Garbo, I just vant to be left alone.I feel I deserve my well-earned privacy and quiet life.”
Quote Ricky, thanks for that post, this is exactly how i feel
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I hate being with people or even seeing alot of them around me, I had this phobia where I feel uncomfortable just walking around and I always feel their cold stares, I avoided going out much for much and before I knew it, I became a recluse. Just a teenager here but I don’t seem to fit in with other people of my age group. Started avoiding people cause of an incident.
nice to know there are other recluses with the same problems
recluse-in-training. The only friends I have are at yoga class and people I share with but not my innermost self. That question about Saturday morning and no plans – I would choose to be alone but not in bed all day. Gardening, yoga, clean the car but alone. Just because you are recluse doesn’t mean you waste your life in bed!
I must say what a relief to read the posts of ‘recluses’ in the making and those who are at peace with themselves. ‘Be true to thyself’. I very much enjoyed reading the candid responses of exposing genuine feelings about an issue that makes you feel weird left wondering ‘Am I weird’? I must say I relate to people who are simply burned out by the end of their work day. I work with 180 students per day, giving each any drop of help, blood , sweat , tears, I can because I care about them. Sometimes I do feel resentment when no one seems to appreciate it – but hey today I watched Joel Osteen and he said if you have never been thanked and you serve others in quiet God knows. I relate also to the person who has been hurt and disappointed and just wants to have peace, tranquility without feeling as though you piss yet someone else off. I am kind to everyone, and need to be alone to rejuvenate my spirit so I can teach and help my students. I am exhausted by the emotional and intellectual requirements it takes to teach my 180 high school students each day; it isn’t the students as much as the beauracracy of it all. As I age I am more selective whom I spend my private home time with. By the way I have a sweet little cottage type home that is my sanctuary – being gone so much during the week I find I just want to be here with my dog, flowers, candles, angels and music. I can pray and meditate more feel closer to God. Hey if this makes me weird -so be it – I am harmless:)
Just found your site after typing the word ‘Recluse’ into Google. Did the quiz and I’m a ‘All Hail the Recluse’s Recluse!’. I’ve had good practice grasshopper.
As of today’s date (11 Dec 13) I have only been outside my front door once, and that was on Monday for some grocery’s. I only venture outside every two weeks to do grocery shopping, and I love it. I have various disorders, one of them being Avoidant Personality Disorder and Social Anxiety Disorder brought on by parental abuse when I was a child and a SA in the early years of adulthood. The situation and attitudes of the latter put me off people completely. Funnily enough, I don’t even like social networking, which I know a lot of recluse’s like and prefer because it isn’t actually going out and meeting people. With me it’s just people. I have two cats whose company I much prefer.
However, I also have depression (a co-morbidity of having A.D.H.D), and this is getting worse and my energy and motivation levels in all areas is low to non-existent. Not sure if to look into this or not. Haven’t decided.
Well this is me. Or a part of me at least.
For those who like/love being a recluse, a big thumbs up. Oh, and hail to the night time hours, ‘the’ best time of the day – nice and quiet with no AH’s about.
Also I live with my 2 cats
Living on my own, means no hurt as I do not trust other people.
I do go out to the shops and the cinema, which I do not have to converse with others
hope to hear from you soon
All hail the recluse’s recluse. Fits me to a tee. I like sitting in the dark. no lights except to find something and I love it when it rains all day for days. DTA, Don’t trust anybody. And I don’t like people. I’m happiest when it’s just me,I and myself.
Bohomiz, Lizzie and Charles. I live with my cat. just me and her. I dislike company in anyway!
If I do have it. I’m nice and cordial. but it’s really draining. so it must be infrequent.
even my cat is scared of people! haha she hides when anyone comes near the door.
I sometimes stay in to myself ALONE except for Kitty for 13 days. I just go to the grocery store and Errands and try and get them done in one day so I can recluse for another 2 weeks.
I too do not trust people and can’t get close anymore. I have SA disorder and avoidant personality. due to my natural shyness and emotional abuse and bullying while growing up.along with rejection from people I trusted and loved. I think I am a good actor in a way. able to chat with people and be friendly. not saying I am a FAKE NICE guy. that part of me wants or wanted to LIKE people. but they are just disappointing. so I bring that out when I have to. as a means of survival when I’m out and put HIM back in hibernation mode until next time. I used to facebook/socialize. now it too seems too fake and cliquish for me. and deactivate my account for months to avoid ‘KNOWING’ anyone. I’m no longer easy to get to know and am as skittish as my cat!
Now IN MY 40′S I no longer care to even try. leave me with my puttering. decorating and TCM/classic movies and My Kitty Cat and the world OUTSIDE. Phffft be gone!
Thanks Lizzie! that’s nice of you to say so.
seems all cats I have had are the same! they mirror me some how.
and you are right people aren’t good to have around you. so many back-stabbers. I just can’t bother any longer. I’m not accessible anymore either. my WORLD has so many things I can enjoy doing alone. people always made me feel FOOLISH. their pretending to care and back stabbing ways sends negative vibes through me like a hot butter knife through butter! I just RUN.
A long time ago my Mother told me to be my own best friend and I’d never be alone.I like to converse with people but only at MY choosing. I don’t want to be forced to speak with people nor will I put myself in the position to do so. I’m a sports graphic designer so I work from home and LOVE IT. No commute, no talk about Duck Dynasty or any of that nonsense. Just me and my laptop. I can have food delivered, money delivered (again working from home) and pretty much anything else I need. WHY LEAVE?? For the most part I’m a humanitarian but I hate people.I want the best for humanity but am skeptical about the chances of those hopes coming to fruition so why bother? If the most you have to offer is your opinion on the Grammys I’m perfectly content to live in my version of reality totally detatched from the sad realities of ‘the real world’. I wear my recluse
adge with dignity and honor and only those whom I see fit will ever know me. I think we all owe that to ourselves. I will forces be the Social Relcuse.
I wouldn’t mind if I weren’t reclusive, but, I can’t find any reason to give it up.
If there were something or someone that I was passionate about…or even just simply enjoyed…then I might see my way to being more “social”. Unfortunately, I can see no value in people, governments, media, religions, and human ambition in general. I would welcome the opportunity to be proven as being wrong…..a highly unlikely occurence.
“All Hail The Recluse’s Recluse”. Hmmm… Damn near five years later and my result is the same. Well, seeing as how I’m still thriving “hermit-style” (referencing my earlier comment), I guess it’s true, and old habits really do die hard (if at all).
Hello to CARATACUS MACRUSSELL. I believe we have communicated before. I am a RECLUSES RECLUSE. I could take or leave people but prefer to leave them. I live in the Maine woods and sometimes can’t get out in the winter which suits me just fine. I did not leave the house all last summer and all last winter. I live with 5 dogs and a paranoid schitzo husband so i have my sources of amusement. Animals are wonderful they can do no wrong.
I am a recluse in training! I know I’m much more reclusive than that though. I’m forced to be a tiny bit social at work. I’m an accountant the perfect job for a recluse and I have to interact with clients from time to time BUT I keep it professional short and sweet. I know they must all think I’m SO WEIRD for being so quiet but I could care less!!! I love my privacy, my own private thoughts, emotions and yes they are all precious to me. I think I’m a fantastic person. I’m very kind and tolerant of other people but I don’t feel other people are the same to me. I feel like people want me to be different and I never will be. I adore being alone. i find other people amusing upon occasion but most of the time i find them to be incredibly annoying. I’m a very sweet person and most people don’t like sweet anymore. It’s a tough world out there! So I’m glad to be alone in my sweet kind thoughts away from others. I do enjoy being with my nephew but soon he’ll be grown up and lose his sweetness like so many people do in this world. This is an awesome blog! I find a lot of comfort in knowing there are a lot of other recluses out there enjoying their reclusive lifestyle and unique way of being a recluse! Everyone’s posts are awesome thank you for sharing Recluses are awesome!
I am in a relationship, we have a business together and throughout the last two years I seem to spend allot of time alone and I love it. I have always thought about living in a place where no one will bother me and every day that goes by I want it to be a reality.
I noticed about about two years ago that I really do not like spending time with other people when a friend invited us to dinner. All I could hear was about the new cars they wanted or an expensive house, and how they hate their neighbor. I even hate to have dinner with family. I hate all the drama and can live without it
I love my animals and could be happy in a camper in the woods. The longer wait the harder it is for me to deal with people. I do not like to shop, do not like crowds and think that socializing is the worst. I like the rainy days and also snowy days. There is something so calming about both.
Now, all I need to do is get a job I can do from home.
Moreover advise to parents is let the reclusive has his/her way since they are musing filled with happiness by themselves. If not you going to force them being more anxious and suffer more anxiety if you force them out of the house.
About all listed holidays New Year, [Chinese including Moon Cake aka Autumn Festival and Solstice Festival.] New Year, Thanksgiving, Christmas and other celebrating dinner will always end up failing in the long run if you really interfere and interrupt your peace and quiet solitude time. Wishlist for Reclusive is to leave us alone by skipping all the dinner and don’t ever force us to celebrating our birthday unnecessary small talk that let us see your fake personality showing how responsible you can be.
You will feeling loneliness when you miss solitude time. Void, abyss, vacuum, darkness, wormhole and black hole tend to be trigger nightmare when you sleep after you experience bad company with people who will misunderstand you.
Recluse’s recluse. I really hate leaving the house and being around people. I’m afraid of people, unless I somehow know them personally or I chat with them over the internet. I really only leave the house to get cigs.
I am the recluse’s recluse. Completely believable. The question answering “Do online friends count?” made me bust out laughing because it is so true. I get on Facebook and see people I went to school with…well…I want to stab them over and over or just delete them from my life. I hate people…unless I meet them online.
I hate leaving the house and just generally being around people. The only reason I leave is a.) because I have to and b.) because of school/work. I have told my fiance multiple times “it’s not that I hate you. Or that I hate being around you. I just have days–or periods of time spanning months–that I just don’t want to talk to anyone. I just want to spend my days in bed playing video games, writing or reading a book.”
At first I thought I was crazy. That what I felt was just depression or something. That everyone felt like that. I quickly learned that wasn’t so–that I was far different. That people needed social interaction yet…I didn’t. When I learned about recluses…it made me feel better to know it was (slightly) normal.
Recluse’s recluse. I do solitary technical work from home, live in a rural area and only go out in public for an hour a week to shop. As it is I do most of my shopping online. If it wasn’t for the farmer’s market and hardware store I wouldn’t even need to see people