Comments on: Hello http://recluse.me/2008/06/hello/ The great paradox of the writer's life is how much time he spends alone trying to connect with other people. ~ Betsy Lerner Tue, 07 May 2013 23:44:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: PJ http://recluse.me/2008/06/hello/comment-page-1/#comment-3583 PJ Sun, 29 Jun 2008 12:34:54 +0000 http://nubiana.co.uk/2008/06/22/hello/#comment-3583 Hi Liane, thanks for your thoughts. Hi Liane, thanks for your thoughts.

]]> By: Liane Spicer http://recluse.me/2008/06/hello/comment-page-1/#comment-3581 Liane Spicer Fri, 27 Jun 2008 17:54:37 +0000 http://nubiana.co.uk/2008/06/22/hello/#comment-3581 I try not to bother too much about the stats and comments. Sometimes there are more comments than at other times, and I shrug and let it go. What I try to do is avoid getting into competitive mode when I see other blogs which get way more comments, since these bloggers visit tons of blogs and leave comments, which I don't have the time to do. So I just visit the ones I like, on a schedule that is not as frequent as I'd like but which takes into account that I have other things to do beside blog. I'd say don't invest too much in the stats. Some days I have dozens of visitors - even hundreds on rare occasions (whoever they may be and however they might have arrived at my blog) and not a single comment. And I for one will always drop by here and see how you're doing. Other than that, I think the discovery of your colleague's salary advantage is serving a good purpose, which is to help motivate you to separate yourself emotionally from your job, and then the decision to leave physically will happen. Good luck! I try not to bother too much about the stats and comments. Sometimes there are more comments than at other times, and I shrug and let it go. What I try to do is avoid getting into competitive mode when I see other blogs which get way more comments, since these bloggers visit tons of blogs and leave comments, which I don’t have the time to do. So I just visit the ones I like, on a schedule that is not as frequent as I’d like but which takes into account that I have other things to do beside blog.

I’d say don’t invest too much in the stats. Some days I have dozens of visitors – even hundreds on rare occasions (whoever they may be and however they might have arrived at my blog) and not a single comment. And I for one will always drop by here and see how you’re doing.

Other than that, I think the discovery of your colleague’s salary advantage is serving a good purpose, which is to help motivate you to separate yourself emotionally from your job, and then the decision to leave physically will happen. Good luck!

]]> By: PJ http://recluse.me/2008/06/hello/comment-page-1/#comment-3580 PJ Fri, 27 Jun 2008 17:36:07 +0000 http://nubiana.co.uk/2008/06/22/hello/#comment-3580 Hi Mr Frog, blogging isn't easy sometimes. I've also been a bad buddy, let's start from scratch. And my earlier promise still stands. :wink: Hi Mr Frog, blogging isn’t easy sometimes. I’ve also been a bad buddy, let’s start from scratch. And my earlier promise still stands. :wink:

]]> By: SamuraiFrog http://recluse.me/2008/06/hello/comment-page-1/#comment-3576 SamuraiFrog Thu, 26 Jun 2008 15:52:31 +0000 http://nubiana.co.uk/2008/06/22/hello/#comment-3576 Hello, P. I know exactly where you're coming from with the lack of comments and such. I really hate blogging because of it sometimes, actually. Only 7% of my readers are returning (of course, it doesn't count feeds), and not a ton of people leave comments like they used to. It can be discouraging; you feel like people used to be interested in you and have now gotten tired of you. Like you, I've started getting a bunch of comments on an old post. The #1 search term on my blog is "Helen Mirren naked," and people keep commenting on a post that has a bunch of naked Helen Mirren pictures. My favorite goes something like "I'm sorry, but this is kind of a pathetic post." Well, gee, as long as you're sorry, thanks... I'm sorry I've been such a bad weight loss buddy, by the way. I got so busy in April and May with working steadily and then getting sick at the beginning of June. I've been neglecting everyone, and I feel like kind of a dick. Hello, P. I know exactly where you’re coming from with the lack of comments and such. I really hate blogging because of it sometimes, actually. Only 7% of my readers are returning (of course, it doesn’t count feeds), and not a ton of people leave comments like they used to. It can be discouraging; you feel like people used to be interested in you and have now gotten tired of you.

Like you, I’ve started getting a bunch of comments on an old post. The #1 search term on my blog is “Helen Mirren naked,” and people keep commenting on a post that has a bunch of naked Helen Mirren pictures. My favorite goes something like “I’m sorry, but this is kind of a pathetic post.” Well, gee, as long as you’re sorry, thanks…

I’m sorry I’ve been such a bad weight loss buddy, by the way. I got so busy in April and May with working steadily and then getting sick at the beginning of June. I’ve been neglecting everyone, and I feel like kind of a dick.

]]> By: PJ http://recluse.me/2008/06/hello/comment-page-1/#comment-3572 PJ Wed, 25 Jun 2008 00:00:04 +0000 http://nubiana.co.uk/2008/06/22/hello/#comment-3572 Tim: I used to have a similar attitude to people, but as I seem to attract wolves in lambs' clothing I have developed a suspicious nature over time. Glad you're not the bad speller. Tim: I used to have a similar attitude to people, but as I seem to attract wolves in lambs’ clothing I have developed a suspicious nature over time. Glad you’re not the bad speller.

]]> By: PJ http://recluse.me/2008/06/hello/comment-page-1/#comment-3571 PJ Tue, 24 Jun 2008 23:56:57 +0000 http://nubiana.co.uk/2008/06/22/hello/#comment-3571 Hi Writer Reading, thanks for your insightful comment. I love your blog and plan to become part of its modest readership. Hi Writer Reading, thanks for your insightful comment. I love your blog and plan to become part of its modest readership.

]]> By: writer reading http://recluse.me/2008/06/hello/comment-page-1/#comment-3569 writer reading Mon, 23 Jun 2008 20:41:29 +0000 http://nubiana.co.uk/2008/06/22/hello/#comment-3569 I just found your blog and can totally relate to the ambivalence of feeling discouraged when there are no comments but feeling terrified when there are too many. I deleted an entire blog in the last year because just as it was becoming more personal, it also got much, much popular and I began to feel extremely vulnerable that I had disclosed too much and needed to go into hiding for awhile. This time around I am being more cautious about personal revelations and my readership has stayed more modest but more familiar. There's a real trade-off. I just found your blog and can totally relate to the ambivalence of feeling discouraged when there are no comments but feeling terrified when there are too many. I deleted an entire blog in the last year because just as it was becoming more personal, it also got much, much popular and I began to feel extremely vulnerable that I had disclosed too much and needed to go into hiding for awhile. This time around I am being more cautious about personal revelations and my readership has stayed more modest but more familiar. There’s a real trade-off.

]]> By: tim maguire http://recluse.me/2008/06/hello/comment-page-1/#comment-3568 tim maguire Mon, 23 Jun 2008 15:59:48 +0000 http://nubiana.co.uk/2008/06/22/hello/#comment-3568 I can't believe you deleted my email! Sincerity used to count for something young lady! (Just kidding, I spell much better than that guy.) I tend to trust people until they give me a reason not to. That means I get burned now and then, but I long ago decided I'd rather suffer the occasional betrayal then drop my faith. I can’t believe you deleted my email! Sincerity used to count for something young lady! (Just kidding, I spell much better than that guy.)

I tend to trust people until they give me a reason not to. That means I get burned now and then, but I long ago decided I’d rather suffer the occasional betrayal then drop my faith.

]]> By: PJ http://recluse.me/2008/06/hello/comment-page-1/#comment-3567 PJ Mon, 23 Jun 2008 09:39:43 +0000 http://nubiana.co.uk/2008/06/22/hello/#comment-3567 Dr M: thanks darling. CB: The only good thing about living with my parents is that I don't have real commitments. As for guys, sometimes there's a bit of me that hopes that the guy will prove himself to be different, despite my doubts. Dr M: thanks darling.

CB: The only good thing about living with my parents is that I don’t have real commitments. As for guys, sometimes there’s a bit of me that hopes that the guy will prove himself to be different, despite my doubts.

]]> By: china blue http://recluse.me/2008/06/hello/comment-page-1/#comment-3566 china blue Mon, 23 Jun 2008 08:32:16 +0000 http://nubiana.co.uk/2008/06/22/hello/#comment-3566 What Dr Monkey said. I've not given my own blog much time the last few weeks. Similar feeling, different reasons. I think finding out about your colleague's pay, plus being invited to do that project, could possibly springboard you out of that job - you know it's not going anywhere, but you have another motive to leave, plus something else for your CV. Like me, you live with your folks - there'll never be a better time to take a leap. :smile: As for the guy/trust issues, I know just how you feel on this one. If you ignore your instincts, then you're responsible for letting that person into your life against your better judgement; but you can't blame yourself if that person is a complete and total douchebag - you didn't make them that way. What Dr Monkey said. I’ve not given my own blog much time the last few weeks. Similar feeling, different reasons.

I think finding out about your colleague’s pay, plus being invited to do that project, could possibly springboard you out of that job – you know it’s not going anywhere, but you have another motive to leave, plus something else for your CV. Like me, you live with your folks – there’ll never be a better time to take a leap. :smile:

As for the guy/trust issues, I know just how you feel on this one. If you ignore your instincts, then you’re responsible for letting that person into your life against your better judgement; but you can’t blame yourself if that person is a complete and total douchebag – you didn’t make them that way.

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